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Not that long ago, I finally decided to declutter a part of my life, our lives, that’s been hanging out under a bathroom sink since around 2010 or so …
Within 5 minutes it was all gone…
This whole bag was filled with old meds and empty vials, representing lots of memories, tears, depression, and stress.
There are so many women in this same situation… some are open about it, some like me, hide it because they are sad, or even worse ashamed about it. Ladies, you don’t have to be ashamed. You are a beautiful person! And you are no less of a woman than the lady next to you. Our ‘stuff’ just doesn’t work!
Unless you’ve been through infertility, just as you may say to us- “you don’t have kids, you don’t understand…” We could say to you, “we can’t have kids, YOU don’t understand…” but mostly we just remain quiet and hurt silently by such comments…
We need to all be more respectful and less hurtful by our words.
Which leads me to say, PLEASE refrain from any upcoming April Fools jokes about being pregnant, it’s truly not funny, it’s not amusing, it’s not polite. For those of us who have wanted nothing more than to see a positive line on a pregnancy test, these are cruel and insensitive posts. Not only for us, but for anyone who has had miscarriages and would love nothing more than to have this good news. I beg you, please don’t joke about this topic, it hurts so much to see such cruel jokes being spread around social media.
It never worked out for us to have babies, back then we couldn’t accept it, understand it, or want to believe it.
Now we look back and can say, ok God, it wasn’t in your plans for us to have babies, so bring us to something bigger and better.
And I think He did.
I know He did.
Our life is blessed, it’s full, it’s fun, it’s amazing!
We have all that we need, most importantly, we have one another.
My wish for you today, if you’re still holding onto to the past, I pray that in time, you will also be able to look back and say,
He had better plans for me too.
With love and sending hugs,
Brandy ❤️
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Well said Brandy and yes he does have bigger and better plans for you. Life does not always happen as we may want it but when you look back it always works out for our good. Yes we will always have those tender spots but with Gods strength we can learn to push through that instant of pain or sorrow. We can definitely always smile for what blessings He has given us. I think you and Brian know that. Follow His lead and see where it takes you. Love you.
So glad I stumbled across this tonight. You are such an incredible person. Your strength really amazes me. You and Bryan have walked through a battle that so many people do not understand, and you have come out victorious! So far my story has turned up one healthy baby, but I know the fear of your body revolting against your dreams and I cannot imagine facing it over and over again. Miscarriages are a slightly different beast, but I feel that they are probably very similar experiences. They are ultimately a grief. A mother of miscarried babies grieves for the babies she carried and lost, and the mother who couldn’t get pregnant grieves for the babies she carries on her heart. Both have their innocence completely robbed… And both definitely roll their eyes at the girls who have 5 babies and never a complication. Lol. Love you to death and am so honored to call you my friend.